Lifestyle, Struggles

When I Grow Up…

*QUE PUSSYCAT DOLL SONG*

In almost 9 weeks I am going to be 25 – I know it seems so surreal because I started this blog when I was 21. Even though SOOOO much has changed, many things have stayed the same. At 25 I pictured my life being TOTALLY different – I cannot explain but I had certain expectations for myself and lets just say I am not where I thought I would be.

giphy-2Even though I have more than enough to be proud of, I still feel like there is more for me to do. Obviously 25 is still young but in my head I will be 30 soon enough and it is time for me to get my ducks in a row. I have hit the breaking point of just doing the bare minimum. Being a college graduate, having a good job and your own apartment – makes you think you have it all figured out. NOPE, totally opposite – I have never felt more lost.
old

 

Before everyone starts feeling sorry for me, this is not what this is about. It is just bring awareness to how millennials think, when I speak to many other young women my age they feel the same. We are all just trying to figure it out – we want to be established already and be moving on to the next phase of our life. But how can you when you have loans to pay, a job you do not love and a crappy boyfriend (not me personally)!

So starting now but more once I turn 25 – I plan to do what I want with my life. Not just what I think I should do or what will make my parents proud. For the last 24 years that is exactly what I have been doing and I am glad to where it has gotten me BUT it is time for a change kids! giphy-3Until next time,

J

 

 

 

 

Advertisements
Standard
Lifestyle

Workout Of Choice

Any type of physical activity makes me cringe – I hate anything that makes me sweat or look ugly. So obviously working out is not at the top of my to do list EVER! As I am quickly approaching 25 (internally screams) I have realized that I have to start taking care of myself. 5workingoutnightmareEating Wendy’s weekly and sitting on the couch is going to catch up to me one of this days. It was important for me to find a workout that I enjoy but also one that gets the job done. PILATES is my drug of choice – it tones, strengths and kind of stretches you out. Now there are different types of Pilates – my preference is reformer.

The reformer machine has become my new best friend – you get a fun and dynamic workout that does everything if not more. Personally I sweat easily and obviously if you are working out you going to sweat but during this class it is not the sweat that makes you uncomfortable.

Pilates has been my go-to for the last 4 months and I have yet to be disappointed. Obviously it also depends on the teacher but all and all I enjoy this workout. Obviously we all know that I am a city girl, so my favorite studio is CPBurn. They have amazing instructors and the studio is clean and simple! I book on Classpass and can always get a spot but the studio also seems to have amazing deals.

So for all my girls out there who cannot find the right workout class, try pilates and let me know what you think!

 

work-out

Xx,

J

Standard
Struggles

HERE I AM

Oh helllllloooooo…

Yes, I know it has been almost a year since the last time I posted. I said I was going to be posting less because of my podcast. Well, less turned into NOT AT ALL – and then my podcast went from every week to every month to every three months to “Do you still have a podcast?’.

Anyone who has been apart of this journey since my Tumblr days (LOYAL AF) know that I take breaks from time to time. Half of it is because I am lazy and forget to post the other (MORE IMPORTANT) half is because I HATE posting/putting out content that is not 100%. When I know that I cannot get a blog post or an episode of my podcast EVERYTHING I have I would just rather step away and come up with new and fresh ideas!

SO HERE I AM – back and better than last time (I cannot say ever because we all know that would be a lie) I am going to be 25 this upcoming August and I need to GET MY LIFE TOGETHER. That means getting back to things that make me happy and are important to me.

Image result for get my life together gif

My first step is coming back to the place where I first began speaking my mind and opening up. JNOLAISM has been a safe space for me to talk about what I WANT/WHEN I WANT! Nothing is going to change from the last time I was posting! Pop culture, fashion, beauty, and giving my unsolicited advice are all still HIGHLY important to me.

Sit back, relax and welcome back to JNOLAISM!

Xx,

J

Standard
Lifestyle

Sorry Julia Roberts, but NO!

Let me just start out by saying how much I LOVE Julia Roberts. I mean she is the queen of rom-com’s to me – Pretty Woman, Runaway Bride, My Best Friends Wedding AND the iconic Steel Magnolias.  I could go on but you get the gist – with that being said Julia should not be PEOPLE’s 2017 World’s Most Beautiful Woman.  Now what I am about to say might not be that nice but it is the TRUTH!

tumblr_mlxrhu5kb61s69kmho1_500

So don’t get me wrong Julia Roberts is a vision BUT we can do better! To me she is not the most beautiful woman of 2017 – is she even on the radar at the moment?  What’s the last thing she has even done … Mother’s Day ( which I  actually watched this weekend and it was HORRIBLE – funny tho). Anyway, the point I am trying to make is that we have SO MANY women in 2017 that have made impacts that would have been better and made more sense.

tumblr_oobkg7rsrk1vrjwbvo1_500

Who do you ask? Oh, I don’t know – Viola Davis, Traci Ellis Ross, Connie Britton, Sarah Paulson… should I go on? NO, because you get it – there are other women out there besides JULIA FREAKING ROBERTS. And not to mention this is her FIFTH time on the cover for the most beautiful woman. So that in itself shows that she shouldn’t be this year’s pick.

I just wish PEOPLE would have put A LOT more thought into this instead of recycling past cover girls. It is 2017 we have MORE THAN ENOUGH options for women to choose from – DO BETTER PEOPLE, DO BETTER!!

Trust and believe I will discuss this more on next weeks podcast… stay tuned!

x,

J

Standard
Lifestyle

Embrace What You Hate

Not a person who gets personal or into their feelings but this week I am. Growing up I HATED my natural  – honestly up until a year ago I hated it. I thought straight hair was the way to be and that curly/ frizzy hair was ugly (well mine was). Maybe it is because I am 23 and realizing I can’t change the thing I dislike about myself but only embrace them.

As young women we have to stop beating up on ourselves about things that don’t matter. I know at 16 they feel as if they are the most important in the world but they aren’t! I also think it helps to be with a person and or have friends who lift you and not bring you down. Having a boyfriend who tells you he loves the things about you that you hate can help make you feel better. Now don’t get all ” you don’t need a man to make you feel good about yourself” – I agree you don’t. But when there are certain things about yourself you hate, hearing someone tell you they like those things might help you with your confidence.

tumblr_nxcv54foz81u2k0j0o1_500

This week I decided to embrace the things I try to usually hide. For instance – I am not a HUGE make up person but I do wear concealer everyday with blush and mascara almost everyday – this week I didn’t . Also, I wore my hair naturally all week – 50% because I didn’t feel like doing it but whatever. By doing this I felt a little bit better about myself – sometimes I did want to run to the bathroom real quick and put on some mascara but I didn’t. I embraced these two things that I worry about constantly and didn’t care what anyone thought.

I am not preaching to you to go out and not wear makeup for a week and not do your hair. But to find something that makes you insecure and value you it more than you have before.

tumblr_ml9g25ri0k1rkf5r6o1_500

 

Xx,

J

 

Standard
Lifestyle

Date the Bad Guys

Yes,  I know that we were told to always date the nice guy – the ones who treat us with respect. But… sometimes the bad guys dress up and pretend to be nice to us. Instead of hating these guys we should date them and after they F (you know the word) us over we should thank them. Why do you ask… I will tell you!

Okay, so I am sure we have all dated a jerk , a player and many other guys that just SUCK. We have cried about them, ate our feelings because of them and we have learned from them. Don’t get angry just hear me out – remember what that guy did to you? Exactly, you know how you DON’T want to be treated and the type of relationship you will not be in. As young women we need these HORRIBLE relationships to teach us what we will and will not accept!

girl-got-to-have-standards-black-and-white-single-online-dating-gif-1

From my own experiences I appreciate the lousy guys I have dealt with because without them I wouldn’t be where I am today. Even though I had some sad nights in my room with Leona Lewis’ Keep Bleeding on repeat, I would go through it ALL over again. Without these heartaches we don’t find the ones that are truly worth it.

So for all the girls that just broke up with a grade A+ F boy, put on your favorite song to cry too and LET IT OUT girlfriend. He wasn’t the one and it isn’t the end of the world. After a few years you are going to look back and say ” Wow, what if I never dated him”. I mean we know how the story goes, you have to kiss a few frogs before we get our prince ladies!

giphy3

xo,

J

Standard
Lifestyle

Gorilla’s, Abuse and #TheHills

Since last week the news (social media – where millennials receives news) the news has been buzzing with so many topics. Whether it be the uproar about the Gorilla, Amber Heard vs Johnny Depp abuse scandal or the return of Lauren Conrad on MTV in August. Day after day we have been hit with so much information that it’s hard to stay focus.

First, I’m going to start off with a serious issue… Abuse. This is most likely going to be one of the few times I will be serious but I want to say that mental and physical abuse is wrong. There is nothing funny about it, also it is wrong to shame a young woman just because you are obsessed with a movie star. Now, I am not one to jump the gun because I have no idea what happens behind close door especially when it comes to the Heard/Depp household, but if a women comes forward about being abused no one has the right to comment. In my own opinion I believe Amber and maybe it’s because I’ve never been a huge Johnny Depp fan. Also, I would like to say for people who come out that know him don’t know the person he was with Amber – just because he didn’t beat his last girlfriend, wife, daughter or friend doesn’t mean he is an angel. So stop judging the victim because until you have you have walked in their shoes you have no idea what it is like to be them!

Second, let’s discuss Harambe the gorilla – I’m on the fence about this one, let’s hope I don’t fall over (you see what I did there). Too soon? Anyway, I don’t believe it was necessary to kill the gorilla but I am also not a parent and can’t even imagine what it feels like to see your child next to an animal you fear is dangerous. After watching the video it does come off as if the gorilla has no intention of harming the child – but I am not a gorilla expert so again I can see both sides. But the fact that there is a twitter war about this and so many people are out raged – how about we bring it down a notch guys.

Last but definitely not least, LAUREN CONRAD IS COMING BACK TO MTV.

tumblr_o820fcyYov1qm7cjco1_500

I mean guys we needed a pick me up from the first two stories. Anyway the rest is about to be written! Am I on a roll or what? Can you believe that it has ben 10YEARS since the premier of The Hills! No idea where the time has went but so glad it has brought us to this moment. The Hills: That Was Then, This is Now is a special by MTV for the 10 year anniversary of the show and all the drama it brought us. LC (that’s what her friends call her) is going to talk about the series and hopefully throw some secrets in there. So get yourself a few bottles of wine, call up your high school bffs (even if you haven’t talked since the show ended) and pop some popcorn because on August 2nd at 10PM all our dreams are coming true!

x,

Jasmine

 

Standard